Gratitude-October (14)

Gratitude:
-For Jessica. Great visit. Perfect mediator. Lovingly effortlessly holding space. Friendship.
-For Moon. Clearing the air more. Understanding.

-For myself for being a good communicator. For passing through my frustration and tears, and in the release, feeling peace. Like complete peace through my body/energy field. Lovely. I had realizations about why I was hit by that car. I’ve been asking and asking why? It was definitely about slowing down. To be mindful. To be careful with my steps. To look around. To appreciate my health. The body. Time. Healing. Today though, today I had the realization that it’s changed my life and day to day for a reason. It was like a reset/update.
Even though I felt like things were improving in my life, (they were), some of my patterns of living weren’t serving me any longer. Because I immediately wanted to get better/heal as fast as possible, I started eating better. Asking my body what it needed. Paying attention to how I felt after I ate. Drinking more water, eating vegetables daily, no more dairy, cut back on sugar. A couple of weeks ago I stopped eating candy, donuts. I stopped eating chocolate. I still have a sweet tooth so I did buy a small sock-it-to-me cake but I ate it over the course of days not in a single night. Today I got these cinnamon sliced loaf cakes. But again, I didn’t eat them all. This week I’ll be prioritizing water intake/hydration. But yeh. I can see clearly how much diet has changed because I wanted to heal and be able to walk around, hike down the trail at the Observatory, and just wander around. So what I’m thinking is that it’s not the time to wander so much. It’s time to sit down, be mindful, and do the work I know to do to better my life/life situation. So yeh, I’m thankful for the insight and the review of recent events.

-For art. Practicing art.
-For a roof over my head.
-For letting go of past attitudes and experiences that don’t serve anything anymore. Just letting things go, you know?
-For Tani for helping me see more clearly. My vision is like new. Fresh eyes.
-For Jess for making “I love you” so easy to express verbally. I’m much happier for it.
-Intuition
-Archive of Our Own and all the writers who contribute.
-Life itself. Now.

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For those in need.

Feel free to share anything you’re grateful for in the comments below 🙂

Ta

Gratitude-October (10)

Gratitude:
-Sia. Her music. Spotify’s Sia Playlist
-Being a good reminder for many people today
-Getting that Sock-It-To Me cake. Though I’ve yet to have a slice. I’ve been debating to get it for like 3 or 4 days. At least that back and forth is over.
-Moon
-My brother. I love and respect him to make choices for himself that serve his highest good. His right is to live what is right for him at any given moment.
-Sleep! I passed out for 3 hours in the early evening.  Out of nowhere. I must have needed it.
-Water. I’m parched. At least there’s a lot of water here.
-my electronic devices, especially those that allow me to play music
-For inspiration, T.
-For my own two feet

I am grateful to be alive. All the times that I didn’t want to be here anymore seem distant. Far far away. Maybe because I understand the “why” of it now

Feel free to share anything you’re grateful for in the comments below 🙂

Ta

The Pathetic Empath

How can I love myself and hate the world I live in?

I don’t hate the world exactly. Our planet is beautiful. I know there is good here.

I don’t hate or I don’t like to hate. I think I maybe hate myself sometimes though. I do.

I feel disappointed with my country. I feel disappointed in myself. I care and I don’t. I care a lot and don’t know what to do or that I do know what I should do but don’t want to seem like I’m doing nothing. The work is so invisible and will pay off in future but the cost is high now. My self-esteem is low and personal autonomy is near nil.

***
I don’t participate like I should. Or like I think I should. I don’t make a lot of money. Like I used to. I’m not as miserable either. I don’t feel as miserable as I did when I made a lot of money. And that’s a deep-seated way of thinking affecting my way of living in this world at this time. Thought money matters I don’t think it should.
Unreal. I used to work a good job with good health insurance. I used to have my own apartment, my own car. I paid for all my stuff. I was responsible. I was able to make short trips near every weekend to a beautiful city. I was able to go to the movies, by a book, and an album every week. I could dine out. I worked 60+hrs a week. I was tired a lot. Though I could pay for things I felt stagnant. That I wasn’t living a life worth living. A slow slow death.
Then I had what doctors won’t call a breakdown anymore but that’s what it was. And I was out of work for months. And then I worked again. And then I went to school for 9 years and got 2 degrees and am one term short of another but have no interest/drive at all to finishing up any time soon. I thought about it for months. Months. Not an easy choice but one in which I can live with.
***
Currently, I live from the aid of other people. Friends mostly. Family sometimes.

Staying with a friend here in LA, rent-free. She is generous to have offered. As of today (9/16/18) I’ve officially been here 59 days. And that’s many days past too long. And the longest I’ve stayed anywhere in maybe 3 years. I need to get out of here and move on with my life. Make a home for my self that is healthy for me.

But how? How? How without money $$$$$$$$ and a way to earn?

The friend that I’m staying with. I walk her dog, Sampson, who is my friend also.MeandSam_CouchI do the dishes, try to be of use, and out of the way. I used to walk around at night, to relax and write (dictated into a voice recorder or type on my phone). I love the nighttime. The last couple of weeks I’ve been stuck here the majority of the time. And it’s dark during the day because the curtains are drawn because my friend works at night and sleeps during the day. The lack of light, the not being able to be out and about, and that sense of freedom I associate with mobility is gone (for now). This is really fucking with my all around health.
***
When I moved here in mid-July I didn’t have a mobile phone so another friend put me on her family plan and bought me a phone. She gave me $25 a week so I could get a bus pass. And then I got a job walking dogs in early August. And it was the best! And then one day (18 days ago) after walking a 7-month-old beauty, named Oslo, I stepped off of a curb, in a crosswalk, and got hit by a car. The left side of my body was struck. My leg was/is hurt. My knee, hip, ankle. So to the ER, where X-rays showed nothing broken. But the past week has been headaches, nausea, dizziness, and transitory pain. I know I am fortunate to be alive. I am lucky that I wasn’t hurt worse.

Pain woke me up this morning. My knee had been getting better but it popped last night while I was walking Sam, and popped back in place and this morning my whole leg hurts and I’m feeling tired, angry, discouraged. Because I have $8 and some change and can’t get around on my own. Not even to walk to get water. I think I’ll be able to if I take it really slowly but the concern is I risk doing more damage. I dislike asking for help or needing help. I dislike not knowing what to do.

And I’ve been here for 59 days. And I need move out of here but stay in LA, but how? How? Show me. Tell me. Because I’m at a loss.

***
My mind is restful due to meditation (119 days consecutive) but it’s like things are muted. Things still happening in front of me but feel far off. There’s an underlying feeling of unease, self-recrimination, guilt, an impression of laziness. Of waiting. But for what? Where is my sense of urgency? Is this not an emergency? Where are my survival instincts? Where is my pride? Why don’t I do whatever it takes? Maybe if I had someone else to take care of? Maybe not? The logical assessment is that I don’t care enough about myself to try to improve my lot. But that’s not exactly it. I do little by little every day. But it isn’t enough. Fear is a part of it. Fear of the unknown. What if I get into a job situation that is abusive? Which most of my friends in LA are experiencing in some way. I don’t want that. I can’t live it.

I keep thinking about the company we keep. That saying is that you are like the 5 people you spend the most time with. And unrelated but related in the sense of selling my body and time for money, I keep thinking of porn (filming it) or being a sex worker. Good money. Interesting work. Plus maybe guaranteed work because some people fetishize transpeople. If it were safe and regulated and/or if I had a good madam, I’m pretty sure I would.

***
I keep thinking about the spiritual reasons or underlying reasons for the car accident. Slow down. Pay attention. Value yourself first.

The older person who hit me, I let her go because I didn’t know if she had insurance because I didn’t know if she was a legal citizen because I didn’t want to cause her any trouble because I was in shock and the many people who witnessed let me limp away.
The left leg is hurt. The left knee is in and out. According to the internet, the left side is the past and the leg being hurt means I’m not able to physically support myself. The past 3 days my upper back, back of my neck, has been painful (7/10 easy), but not today. The thought last night was perhaps I need to confront my past (like maybe childhood stuff) to move on with things.

The physical pain may be a manifestation of the pain I feel emotionally and psychologically that I have not done my part to make the world a better place. I have not played my part or if I have it is the bare minimum. My friend who put me on her family plan reminds me that the world needs me. That her babies need me to live and be and contribute my perspective, my love, my essence in this world. But how can when I’m judging my fellow citizens? This grossness that is happening here in the U.S. is beyond what I can stomach. How can I do anything when I am judging myself relentlessly. The dizziness, nausea, the headaches. In rejecting what is happening I am rejecting myself and what I am capable of.

How can I prosper and build a foundation when so many suffer? How can I learn art, write, make photographs, learn the guitar, create films, when so many awful things are happening?
Genocide in the U.S. is not talked about on a mass public level but being forced to pay for poisoned water, jailed, while the government attempts to murder people who try to protect water (which is life). How can I prosper when there are missing children sold as slaves for sex and labor, put into concentration camps, families torn apart by our government? People everywhere being abused in every way possible? I feel it all. A healer. A distressed healer who has little to no idea on how to make money because though money matters in our society, it doesn’t appear to make things better. The truth is, my truth is, I want to be of service but not for sale.

I seem to be dealing with victimhood. Orientated towards victims of injustice. Feeling my empathetic nature too much. Feeling pathetic.

Feeling angry and hopeful and tired.

Em(pathetic)
Maybe I should…

dance? Maybe I will dance
carefully
with the hurt
leg.
My heart is on the same side.

 

2018: The New Year

Happy New Year! Wishing you all the best!

To all who aren’t feeling the festivities and all the Happy New Year greetings floating around, I see you, I hear you, feel you.

The clock and the calendar changed yet some things from 2017 are lingering and carrying over because..because.. it’s just the way life is. It is what it is.

Grace and Mercy for all of us who are dealing with heartache, fractured relationships, depression, uncertainty, fear, grief, trauma, poverty, health issues, the lot.

We are still here. We are here. Still breathing (three conscious breaths in and out, please) Hearts beating (hand on heart, please).

You are precious.

❤ ❤ ❤