Gratitude-October (18)


-For myself for being myself. For the joy, wonder, pleasure of being me.

-For all the incredible women I’ve met during these past 2 days. For all the generous, intelligent, insightful, hopeful folks doing challenging work, that requires diligence, imagination, patience, fire (passion), heart. May love continue to guide our ways.

-For Moon for giving me a ride to and from. Skirball today. Saved me 3-4 hrs and 4 busses in time and effort today.

-For education. For all I’ve learned. For connections and new ideas.

-For this time when we are shaping our culture with intentions to value all life on our planet.

-For focus

-For boldness

-For integrity

-For a hand up instead of a handout.

-For t-b-a.

Feel free to share anything you’re grateful for in the comments below 🙂


Gratitude-October (17)

-For all that I learned today. Especially about the cannabis industry. I’ll go more into this another day when I have more brain power. It’s been a long day. Awesome and long. Day 2 is finished.
-For the people I connected with. Lawyers, Scientists, Filmmakers, Community activists, Digital Media makers, Journalists, Advocates, Doctors, Veterans, and so many entrepreneurs! I am going to create a media company someday. Today shows me more than
I am thankful and privileged to even be in this space. Grateful for Karene and Amanda for hooking me up.
-For the bus tokens that I found when I took out the trash a few weeks ago. They’ve come in handy this week. The trip to Skirball is average 90 min of travel. 2 buses. I use only one token and use my TapCard to get a transfer. So instead of the 4 tokens I thought I’d use in a day, I’ve only had to use 1 each way.
-For myself for being bold and talking to people about lgbtq media and why representation is needed. The #1 reason is that it saves lives. Every piece of queer media saves lives.
-For 150 consecutive days of meditation. I rock.
-For allyship
-For community
-For the gifts Felicia gave me.
-For a roof over my head, a comfy place to rest my head, and food to eat.
-For t-b-a ❤

Feel free to share anything you’re grateful for in the comments below 🙂


Trans Bathroom Issue (US)

This has been the most confusing thing. Like how is this even a thing?
Transpeople have been using public bathrooms since forever. Anyone who has used a public bathroom has done so with a transperson in the stall or urinal (well..the second urinal away) at some point in their life for sure. For sure. Most people don’t know this because you can’t tell by looking at us. Most people don’t notice because people who are going to the bathroom or usually just going to the bathroom to relieve themselves/excrete waste from their bodies.
In North Carolina, they are saying people have to use the bathroom according to the gender that is on their birth certificate or gender assigned at birth. Some of us have had all are legal documents changed/amended, birth certificates, passports, social security cards, school records..etc. Some of us have had surgery or surgeries. This is a long process, working with medical professionals and the legal system. Some of us have not done any of these things. We are still trans. We are still human beings. You can’t tell by looking at some body or somebody’s clothes and/or makeup what is between their legs or what gender marker is on their id or birth certificate.
These laws will target ALL People based on what they look like. This is a problem. These laws will target all people based on what they look like,  what clothing they are wearing, what accessories they have on, what make up they are wearing or not wearing. This is a problem.
These laws and proposed bills are disingenuous and dishonest and detrimental to many. These laws and proposed bills are not about giving men permission or the right to use women’s bathrooms, nor are they about giving women permission or the rights to use men’s restrooms.
We all know cisgender women who people have mistakenly thought were male. Repeat, we all know women who people have looked at and mistakenly thought they were men.
These bills and laws are anti-trangender and seem to be primarily geared towards visible transwomen. These laws are anti-women.
Politicians are policing women’s bodies every way they can. People are saying it’s about the protection of girls and women. When has our American society been about the true welfare, protection, and safety of women people? I mean really think about it, think about women’s history, think about how little girls are socialized, look at women’s place in our society and tell me that institutions in our American society are pro-women and pro-children.
What is this really about? It seems like some sort of distraction? If people were really concerned about our children being assaulted, why are pedophiles allowed to use public bathrooms? Why are priests and clergy men? What about protecting our boys and men from being molested and sexually assaulted by the boys, girls, men, women in their lives? People seem to forget that women are perpetrators of crimes against other women and children too.
What is really going on?
Women/girls in bathrooms have been attacked by cisgender men and cisgender women, but not by a transperson or transpeople. Have you heard of a transperson committing these types of crimes? A transperson is much more likely to be assaulted in a bathroom by a cisgender person. Transwomen are much more likely to be beaten, shot, stabbed, and murdered, in general. As transgender people we have much more reason to fear cisgender folks. We don’t kill you for being you. We don’t beat, rape, and kill you for being cisgender.
These bathroom wars, these discriminatory laws, are harmful to all. These lawmakers and people pushing for these bills and laws to be passed, are prejudiced, ignorant, fearful and hateful towards transgender people. They want to make it legal to discriminate against us. We already aren’t protected under so many laws. We can be fired from jobs and refused housing in many states just for being trans. We already have so many things working against us. Why this? Why now?

Why can’t we just live?

Why can’t we just live and pee and shit in peace?